February 26, 2015
We all know someone with a pushy mom, maybe yours is that know-it-all mom? The one that know everything, the one who can write a book about any subject in the world, the one who offers advice and suggestions without even being asked. That type of mother can be quite a handful for an expectant mom to deal with. Things have changed since YOUR mom had you, but she doesn’t always want to hear that she is wrong or that doctors don’t agree with what she says. Some of the policies and procedures that were in place during labor and delivery in the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s are now obsolete.
The best way to handle a know-it-all mom is to help her get informed of the new information that we have available regarding pregnancy, labor and delivery. Take mom to a childbirth class with you. Take her along to your OBGYN or Midwife visit. Let her ask some questions and have the doctor, midwife or doula inform her of the new research and new information out there today! Maybe she didnt have an epidural when she was pregnant and doesn’t think you need one. More than likely she didn’t have delayed cord clamping, placenta encapsulation and cord blood banking after her delivery and doesnt know the benefits.
Pregnancy, labor, and delivery in the 2000’s is not like the pregnancy, labor and delivery of her day. We are more informed and we have more choices. Include your mom in all this new information. Take her along with you when you meet you doula or include her when you write your birth plan, so she sees exactly what you want to happen during YOUR labor and delivery!
Last but not least don’t let your mom feel left out or that you’re annoyed by her. She is as excited as you are. Her baby is having a baby, she’s becoming a grandma! Let her know you love her and appreciate her trying to help and offer advice (even if some of it is outdated). And remember that you’ll be the know-it-all mom one day very soon too!
This blog was written by Lisa Raynor, a childbirth doula in Coral Springs, FL. Lisa offers compassionate support to moms in Boca Raton, Parkland, Coral Springs, Ft Lauderdale and surrounding areas. Call today to schedule your complementary consultation 954-914-3933.