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Month: April 2015

10 things a breastfeeding Mom doesn’t need to hear!

breastfeeding1. I can’t believe he is breastfeeding AGAIN! Didn’t you JUST breastfeed him!!

2. I don’t think she’s hungry, she’s just using you as a pacifier! Why not just give her a pacifier?

3. Just give him a bottle, it’s SO much easier. Why make more work for yourself?

4. How do you know the baby getting enough milk? Aren’t you worried that the baby isn’t getting enough? I would be!

5. My mom never breastfed me and I’m perfectly fine!

6. Your breasts can’t possibly be big enough to breastfeed effectively? They are way to small, you need large breasts if you’re going to be breastfeeding a baby!

7. If you don’t stop breastfeeding soon you’ll never be able to go back to work!

8. I heard pumping is horribly painful! Why would you want to do that?

9. Breastfeeding a baby doesn’t make him any healthier than formula feeding!

10. He’s too old to be breastfeeding! I heard babies don’t need breast milk after a year old! You should just stop now!

 

Breastfeeding is not easy and as moms, we need to support each other. Try to be more conscious of the comments you make to breastfeeding mom (and all moms). Moms can breastfeed for as long as they want and as often as their baby needs. We need to encourage each other and not shame one another for the choices we make as parents.  Parenting does not come with a rule book, we are all learning as we go. We need help along the way, not judgement.

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This blog written by Lisa Raynor , a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL.  She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding.Lisa attends births throughout Broward County and Boca Raton. Call for a FREE consultation today! 954-914-3933

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A Father’s Gift to his Pregnant Daughter

 

I recently went out to dinner with friends, a couple who both work in healthcare.  She’s a registered nurse and he works at a local hospital.  As a previous labor and delivery nurse, she was excited to hear about my life as a doula and very excited to tell me about the gift her new husband gave to his pregnant daughter, her new stepdaughter this past Christmas.  This father was widowed when his two daughters were under 10 years old. He was both mom and dad to them for years.  When his oldest got married and moved out of state he knew she would knew be starting a family on her own one day soon.  Fast forward three years and this young pregnant first time mom was excited and scared about finding out she was having a baby.  Knowing she wouldn’t have her Mom to guide her during this time and be there in the delivery room, he gave her most amazing Christmas/Baby Shower gift….he hired a childbirth and postpartum doula for her!

When my friend was telling me the story I almost cried, the love this father had for his daughter is beautiful. He knew she would need someone to help guide her through her pregnancy, labor and delivery and he knew that it couldn’t be him. He had been dad and mom her whole life but he knew she needed someone more motherly to assist her during this time and his gift was welcomed with open arms! Her doula helped her with all her questions and talked to her about her dreams and fears. They wrote out a birth plan and followed it though. Her dad could have easily bought her a crib or car seat or new wardrobe for the baby, but instead gave her a beautiful gift that she will remember forever.  Want to give the gift of a doula to a loved one? Contact me today! I am currently accepting clients in the Coral Springs and surrounding areas.

 

This blog written by Lisa Raynor, a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL.  She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding.

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My First Doula Client!!

lisaThe day was finally here!!! The day I had been anticipating for months! My first ever client and doula baby was going to be here. I was hired by her mom when she was about 30 weeks pregnant. I have known her for years, we have both lived and worked in Coral Springs and were friends. When she found out that I was doing my certification to become a childbirth and postpartum doula she called me up and asked me if I would be her labor coach. I actually cried when she asked me!!! I still think it is such an honor to be invited into someone labor and delivery room, to be present on the most important day of a parent’s life.  I happily accepted the invitation and we scheduled our first prenatal appointment for the following week.

Her birth plan wasn’t too complicated, this wasn’t her first baby so she knew more or less what to expect from labor and delivery. Her OBGYN’s office was in Coral Springs, but she choose to deliver outside of Coral Springs at the beautiful and newly remodeled North West Medical Center in Margate. Her doctor scheduled her to be induced at 39 weeks fearing she would have another very large baby.  Her prior 2 babies were over 9lbs and her recovery was very painful. She knew she wanted an epidural and wanted to labor in a quiet peaceful setting.  She wanted soft music in the background, dimmed lights and the TV off.  I helped her have all of this. She wanted someone by her side the entire labor and delivery and I did this for her as well. I held her hand during each procedure and exam. Before getting her epidural I rubbed her shoulder and back during contractions and helped her to breathe, relax and focus. Once epidural was in place, she rested and I made sure to keep room quiet and peaceful, I took that time to update her friends and family on her process which they all appreciated.

When it was finally time to push, my client was a rock star! Only 4 big pushes and baby was here! Her beautiful 7lbs 9oz baby girl was placed immediately on her belly and dad and I both cut the cord (at her request). That was another honor and something I will never forget! I spend the next few minutes taking the first pictures of mom and baby, dad and baby and texting her friends and family the good news! This was one of the best days in my life and one I will never forget. I plan on writing another blog going into more detail of actually labor and delivery soon, but wanted to share my “first doula client and baby” experience as simple as sweet as possible.

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Take Your Child to Work Day— Doula Style!

My kids begged me to let them stay home and participate in the famous “Take Your Child to Work Day” that happens every April. This is my first year celebrating this “holiday” as a Doula. I thought to myself, “What are they going to do all day?” The kids offered many suggestions such as going with me to my postpartum appointment, helping me write by blogs for my website www.coralspringsdoula.com and post articles on my Facebook page. All of these were great suggestions and I decided to take them up on their offer to be my “doula assistants” for the day!

I suddenly realized all of the benefits to have my 3 “doula assistants” with me. The extra set of hands came in handy when I was loading up my car to visit a new mom in the morning. I offered to do her grocery shopping and having the strong boys there to carry in the bags was great. Thankfully this new mom lived in Coral Springs and it was only a 5 minute drive for me and the boys. Once we arrived at her home, the boys were able to see that being a postpartum doula included helping a new mom in any way she needs in the days, weeks and even months after becoming a new mom. This client was 6 weeks postpartum and still recovering from a c-section. Going to the grocery store is one of her biggest obstacles, so I offered to pick up the items she needed and bring them along on my visit.

After unloading the groceries, the boys watched me ask this new amazing mom about how she’s been feeling, how the baby’s been eating and if there is anything she needs me to help with. She was still having issues with baby burping after feeding. She was not able to breastfeed because of a previous breast surgery and has been bottle feeding since day one. I helped her with some positions that are best to get a good burp from the baby and even she even let my oldest son burp him once. The boys and I stayed about an hour and this new mom enjoyed the assistance that the boys and I provided.

After coming home, the boys helped me find some interesting articles to post on my Facebook business page.  Then they listened attentively when I talked to another new mom offering breastfeeding advice and support over the phone. I think they got a little a “grossed out” when they heard certain words but they never left my side during the call. All and all, it was a good day for all of us. I think they now have a better understand of what a postpartum doula actually does.  Postpartum doulas offer advice to new moms. Postpartum doulas assist in breastfeeding or bottle feeding. Postpartum doulas run errands so a new mom can concentrate on her recovery and bond with her newborn. Postpartum doulas can do light cooking for the family so a new mom can rest and recover. Postpartum doulas answer non-medical questions about newborn care, postpartum depression or recovery from a c-section or a vaginal delivery.  Last, but not least, postpartum doulas can just listen and let a new moms know that she’s not alone! Postpartum doulas help a new mom in any way they need!

 

If you are a new mom in Coral Springs, Parkland, Boca Raton, Tamarac, Margate, Plantation, Sunrise or surrounding areas and need some assistance with newborn care, breastfeeding or recovering from your birth, give me a call today to discuss your postpartum needs.

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