Personalized Pregnancy & Labor Support

Month: May 2015

A letter to Broward County Moms-to-be from a Coral Springs Doula

Dear Mom-to-be in Broward County,

 

Congratulations on this amazing journey you are beginning!  My name is Lisa Raynor and I am a childbirth and postpartum doula in Broward County, Florida- Coral Springs to be exact.  As a mom of 3 children each of my pregnancies brought new excitement and challenges. There were endless questions and concerns that  I had  during each stage of pregnancy and often felt alone even when surrounded by friends and family.  You are not alone in your fears about pregnancy, labor, childbirth and breastfeeding, we all had them!  I wish I had a doula, someone trained and education in pregnancy, labor and delivery,  to talk to about my fears and concerns and to offer continuous support during labor and delivery.  I became a doula to help women have the birth experience that they desire and help them in any way they need.

Pregnancy is sometimes challenging and there are so many decisions to make.  Always know that  you have options in your birth choices. It is YOUR birth! Know what you want and what you don’t want and make informed decisions.  I strongly suggest that expectant moms in Broward County  hire a doula to assist in making informed decisions regarding  their pregnancy, labor and delivery.  As a childbirth and postpartum doula I know how beneficial a doula can be to an expectant mom, not just in labor and delivery, but before and after as well.  A doula can offer recommendations from a book to read to a doctor to see and anything in-between.  I am Coral Springs mom myself and have many resources available in Coral Springs  and other areas throughout Broward County and South Florida. I can offer recommendations for  doctors, chiropractors, prenatal and infant massage therapists, photographers for maternity photos, newborn photos or birth photos, midwives, placenta encapsulation specialists, childbirth educators , lactation consultants, and much more…. all in Broward County.  Congratulations again on your pregnancy and please contact me for a FREE consultation and see how having me as your doula can help you have the pregnancy, delivery and postpartum care that you deserve!

 

Thank you,

Lisa Raynor~ Childbirth and Postpartum Doula

 
Lisa Raynor -Childbirth and Postpartum Doula

 

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20 things you can expect from ME (Lisa Raynor) as your childbirth and postpartum doula!

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  1. Emotional support during pregnancy! I will be there to answering non-medical questions . If I don’t know something I will try my hardest to find it out and let YOU know.
  2. Suggestions for comfort measures during pregnancy.
  3. Recommendations for childbirth education in your area.
  4. Recommendations for books related to pregnancy, childbirth or breastfeeding. Also, I have several books you are welcome to borrow as well.
  5. Breastfeeding support immediately after delivery and during postpartum period. Also recommendations for an IBCLC if you need that as well.
  6. Relaxation techniques during pregnancy as well as labor.
  7. Visualization techniques and other coping techniques during your labor.
  8. Massages and other comfort measures such as positions during labor.
  9. Support and encouragement during difficult labors. You CAN do this and I will remind you of that!
  10. Explanation of pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding terminology. If I don’t know something I will try my hardest to find it out and let YOU know.
  11. Two (1-2 hr)prenatal meeting to discuss your birth plan, talk about your fears, concerns or anything you want!
  12. Being on call 24/7 until your labor begins from 38-42 weeks. You will have my cell number, home number and at least 2 additional numbers to reach me!
  13. Continuous labor support at the hospital, during labor & delivery and immediately after birth.
  14. Words of encouragement when you feel down- and we all get like that!
  15. Two (1-2hr) postpartum meetings to talk about the birth, help with baby care and breastfeeding. I don’t mind light housekeeping, running local errands or light cooking for my clients.
  16. Phone support and text support during pregnancy and during postpartum period . Late night and weekends are ok too! I will always either answer or call back.
  17. Weekly phone calls, texts or emails- or more if desired- You let me know what your needs are!
  18. Lots of genuine concern for your well being during pregnancy, labor and delivery.
  19. Non-judgmental support in every decision YOU make in YOUR pregnancy, labor and delivery.
  20. A payment plan that fits your budget. I believe every woman deserves a childbirth and postpartum doula, so if you are not able to afford my fee I am open to discuss special arrangements.
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Pleasure With a Purpose…How South Florida Couples Can Make Trying to Conceive Less of a Chore and More Enjoyable!

I’ve known a lot of couples in my life (before and after becoming a doula) who have struggled with fertility issues. After months or even years of TTC (trying to conceive), some of them felt like sex became something they HAD to do every day or every other day during ovulation and not something they necessarily wanted to do. Everything was about peak ovulation days, ovulation predictors, calendars and schedules. Trying to conceive made sex a chore and not pleasurable after a while.

Couples struggling with infertility should try to take the focus off conception and focus on the pleasure, not the end result. I call it “pleasure with a purpose”. The purpose is obviously conceiving and becoming parents. The pleasure is just that! Pleasure is pleasure, enjoying your partner and loving each other. Use this time to do things that you will not do when the baby comes. Be adventurous in bed, excite each other and don’t make it just about making a baby! Once you focus on each other and not ONLYgetting pregnant, it won’t seem like such a chore. A doula or other childbirth professionals are great to talk to about your frustrations or sadness about not getting pregnant. Complaining to your partner might cause more harm than good. As a doula, I talk to a lot of women in South Florida, who are TTC and offer them the same advice as I wrote in this article. I also suggest not playing the “blame game”! Mentioning who is the source of the fertility issues won’t solve anything and will cause more problems. Last but not least, don’t stress about it, the more you do, the more your body is not in a relaxed state to make it happen.

 

 

This blog was written by Lisa Raynor, a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL.  She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding. She has been living in South Florida for over 35 years and active in the birthing community in and around Broward County.

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Eleven reasons your partner should WANT to hire a doula for your Broward County Birth!

 

 

  1. When you hire a childbirth and postpartum doula, your partner will feel less pressure to learn everything about pregnancy, childbirth and delivery. Most doulas are required to read several pregnancy and childbirth books for certification and usually read way more than are required. Doulas also take many hours of classes and workshops to gain knowledge about pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and postpartum care!
  2. With a doula in your delivery room, there is no pressure for your partner to stay in the room every minute while you are in labor . Your partner can leave for a minute or more to grab a snack, a meal or just get away if needed.
  3. When you hire a doula, your partner can learn some great coping techniques, massage techniques and breathing exercise from the doula. We have a lot of experience in comforting moms in labor and we can show your partner how to do it too!
  4. With a doula in the hospital room, your partner can take a nap if he needs it. Maybe he worked a long shift at work and is tired. That’s understandable and not frowned upon. Your doula can step in and take on the birth partner role for as long as needed.
  5. Your doula will support your decisions whatever they might be. Your partner can take comfort in knowing that your doula will support your decisions  for your birth choices and never disagree or push her opinions on you.
  6. Your doula can run and get a snack or drink from the hospital cafeteria if your partner needs one. A doula is there to help BOTH of you in any way she can.
  7. A doula can take pictures of the two of you before, during and after delivery! Who else will have time to do that? The labor and delivery nurses and doctors in the hospital will be busy tending to other patients and that’s OK, because doulas LOVE to take pictures!
  8. A doula can handle all the texts and phones calls to friends and family so you can both enjoy your new baby!
  9. A doula can help support the new mom with breastfeeding if she chooses to do so. Doulas know a lot of breastfeeding and can help a new mom overcome her fears and assist her with her first latch. Doulas can also recommend an  IBCLC (Internationally Board Certified Lactation Consultants) if she needs one.
  10. A doula encourages and supports BOTH of you with motivating words and compliments. A doula will tell you BOTH how great you are doing!
  11. A doula loves to talk about your pregnancy and answer your questions. Your partner will be happy knowing that you’re getting all the attention you deserve during your pregnancy. Doulas don’t mind talking about your fears or your concerns. Doulas don’t mind texts or phone calls from you or your partner.

 

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI wrote this blog and read it to my husband afterwards. He agreed that he would have liked for us to have a doula with all three of our children’s births.  During labor with our first son, he felt nervous, unprepared and sometimes confused with some of the medical terms used. He said that the knowledge and experience that a doula has could have helped him understand more and feel relaxed.  With the birth of our second son, he was tired after being in the delivery room for so many hours, but felt guilty if he would take a walk or get a snack or even tap a power nap. A doula would have allowed him to take a much needed break because a doulas stay by a mother’s side nonstop.  With the birth of our third son, he felt like a pro at everything about labor and delivery, but thinks we could have benefited from a postpartum doula. I had a harder recovery and suffered from postpartum depression and needed alot more help than he was able to give me. A postpartum doula would have been able to support my needs and my newborn’s need and even assist in household chores or other errands that he ended up having to do after working all day.

A doula never replaces a woman’s partner if he chooses to be present at the birth. While a doula can be very helpful for single women or women who must be separated from their partners at the time of birth, doulas are also valuable additions to the birth team even when a birthing woman has a loving and enthusiastic partner. Birth partners may find the physically and emotionally intense nature of the birth experience overwhelming and will appreciate the support and experience of a doula.

 

This blog was written by Lisa Raynor, a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL.  She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding.  She has been living in South Florida for over 35 years and is active in the birthing community in and around Broward County.

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No Videos-No Cameras! Rules of My Plantation, Florida Birth in 1998!

 

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERABefore becoming a childbirth and postpartum doula, my only experiences in the delivery room were my own. I gave birth to my first son in 1998 in South Florida, at Plantation General in Plantation, Florida. This was long before smart phones and tiny video cameras ever existed.  I was also told photography was limited to AFTER the baby was born and that video cameras were NOT allowed at all. These strict photography rules shocked me and saddened me.  I wanted a more “documented birth” with pictures during labor, delivery and immediately afterwards, and yes maybe even a video (on VHS). I decided it was ok NOT to have a video, but pictures were a MUST! I spoke to my doctor who agreed that pictures immediately after baby coming out were fine and that made this first time mom VERY happy!

Now, as a childbirth and postpartum doula, I have seen and heard about fully documented births, childbirth photography and even live stream births on YouTube! Things have changed since 1998 and the “Ban of the Camera” in the delivery room! A lot of parents are choosing home births and able to be in 100% control of what’s going on with their births. Other expectant parents hire a childbirth photographer to take pictures at the hospital. Childbirth photographers can capture every moment from the first contraction to the first latch of breastfeeding.

What will your birth story include? Pictures? Videos? Live stream on Youtube? Hiring a labor doula can help get you the birth you want!  Childbirth and postpartum doulas can recommend a professional photographer to document your birth. The same photograph can take maternity pictures and newborn pictures as well.  I don’t have many pictures of my children immediately after being born, but I treasure the ones I do, and so will you!

 

 

This blog was written by Lisa Raynor, a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL.  She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding. She has lived in South Florida for over 35 years and is actively involved in the birthing community in and around Broward County.

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