Personalized Pregnancy & Labor Support

Month: January 2016

My letter to Wendy Williams on Breastfeeding Shaming!  

Dear Wendy,

My name is Lisa Raynor, I am a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, Florida. I am also a mom of three amazing boys that I breastfed for several months each. I support a woman’s choice to feed their children in the most natural way possible. I support and encourage my clients to breastfeed whenever and WHEREVER they need to!

I never was a fan of your show and watched it ONLY because I am a HUGE fan of Alyssa Milano. I was excited to see her interview because she is such an advocate for mom, especially breastfeeding moms. She’s done much to normalize breastfeeding and I thought the show would be wonderful and empowering to women! I knew the topic of breastfeeding would be brought up. As a doula, it’s always a hot topic, it’s the best food for babies, everyone knows that! I loved nursing my boys and always encourage my clients to nurse.

The interview started off great, until you insulted her about breastfeeding her children, saying it makes you uncomfortable and should be done under a blanket or in the car!  You found nothing wrong with the picture of Miley Cyrus and everything wrong with Alyssa’s breastfeeding pictures because according to you breasts are sexual objects! Calling breasts “fun bags” was offensive and rude. Breasts are not a play toy and sexualizing breastfeeding is what makes people like you feel uncomfortable.  You really owe your guest an apology for the way you spoke to her and treated her and all the other breastfeeding moms. I am so glad she stuck up for herself and other nursing moms. When I was a young mom, I was shamed into breastfeeding in the car or in a bathroom and it was appalling to hear you suggest that to your guest Alyssa Milano!

If you ever decide to have her back on the show, I will buy a ticket and be in the front row!  I hope she brings the baby on stage and breastfeeds right there! I will also encourage my clients and breastfeeding friends to attend the show and nurse their babies in the studio audience. I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I am still shocked and disappointed from you Wendy.

 

Sincerely,

Lisa Raynor~Childbirth and Postpartum Doula

www.coralspringsdoula.com

954-914-3933

P.S. I’m sure this picture I attached will offend you, so my advice is to look away or get over it. I say that in the nicest way possible!breastfeeding

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Exercises to Help You Prepare for Childbirth  

pregnacy broward county doulaPreparing your body is just as important as preparing your home for a new baby. In addition to choosing furniture and bedding, consider choosing some exercises to prepare your body for childbirth.  I share these exercise with all of my clients and I am happy to share them with you! As always, check with your doctor to make sure you don’t have any limitations before you attempt any of these exercises.

Tailor Sitting

What is it? This is an exercise that strengthens and stretches muscles in your back, thighs, and pelvis, and improves your posture. It also keeps your pelvic joints flexible, improves blood flow to your lower body, and eases delivery.

How do I do it? Sit on the floor with your back straight in the “butterfly position” (the bottoms of your feet together and your knees dropped comfortably). As you press both knees gently toward the floor using your elbows, you should feel a stretch in your inner thighs. Don’t bounce your knees up and down rapidly. If you find it difficult at first to keep your back straight, use a wall to support your back. Hold the position for 10 or 15 seconds and repeat the stretch five or 10 times.

You’ll find this exercise is not difficult to do, and it feels great. Your body is more flexible during pregnancy, and this exercise capitalizes on your newfound flexibility.

 

Kegel exercises

What is it? The pelvic floor muscles help support the pelvic organs: the uterus, bladder, and bowels. If you tone them you’ll ease many discomforts of late pregnancy such as hemorrhoids and leakage of urine.

How do I do it? Try to stop the flow of urine when you are sitting on the toilet without tightening your abdominal, buttock, or thigh muscles. When you’re able to successfully start and stop urinating, or you feel the vaginal muscle contract, you are using your pelvic floor muscle, the muscle you should be contracting during Kegel exercises.

You can do Kegel exercises two ways: either by holding or quickly contracting the pelvic floor muscle. To do slow Kegels, contract the pelvic floor muscle and hold for three to 10 seconds. Then relax and repeat up to 10 times. To do fast Kegels, quickly contract and relax your pelvic floor muscle 25 to 50 times. Relax for 5 seconds and repeat the set up to four times.

Squatting

What is it? Squatting is helpful during labor because it opens the pelvic outlet an extra quarter to half inch, allowing more room for the baby to descend. But squatting is tiring, so you should practice it frequently during pregnancy to strengthen the muscles needed.

How do I do it? An exercise called a wall slide is especially helpful. Stand with your back straight against a wall, place your feet shoulder width apart and about six inches from the wall, and keep your arms relaxed at your sides. Slowly and gently slide down the wall to a squatting position (keeping your back straight) until your thighs are parallel to the floor. Hold the position for five to 10 seconds, slowly slide back to a standing position. Repeat five or 10 times.

Pelvic tilt

What is it? Pelvic tilts strengthen abdominal muscles, help relieve backache during pregnancy and labor, and ease delivery. This exercise can also improve the flexibility of your back, and ward off back pain.

How do I do it? You can do pelvic tilts in various positions, but down on your hands and knees is the easiest way to learn it. Get comfortably on your hands and knees, keeping your head in line with your back. Pull in your stomach and arch your back upward. Hold this position for several seconds. Then relax your stomach and back, keeping your back flat and not allowing your stomach to sag. Repeat this exercise three to five times. Gradually work your way up to 10 repetitions.

These exercises can yield great benefits with minimal effort. The exercises require no special equipment except comfortable clothes, and a little space to do them.

 

Source: The Mayo Clinic

 

This blog was written by Lisa Raynor, a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL.  She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding.  She has been living in South Florida for over 35 years and is active in the birthing community in and around Broward County.

 

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How Can a Doula Help You With Your Birth?

pregnancy doulaDoulas have knowledge and experience in almost everything related to pregnancy, labor, delivery and postpartum care. Doulas can offer recommendations and resources for an expectant mom and her partner. Doulas can answer non-medical question related to pregnancy, childbirth, epidurals, breastfeeding and so much more. Doulas can also provide support and encouragement for you and your partner during your pregnancy.

Research studies have shown that the type of support provided by a doula can result in many emotional and physical benefits for the laboring mother and new baby, including fewer medical interventions and improved mother-infant bonding.

​Having a doula means you’ll benefit from continuous emotional and physical support from someone trained and experienced in assisting birthing women. In today’s busy hospital environment it is unlikely that a nurse will be able to provide this type of continuous support. A doula will get to know you and your wishes before the birth and can help you advocate for your choices during the birth. Every baby’s birth is the birth of a new family as well and a doula can support all members of the family, including fathers, siblings, and grandparents, as they welcome their newest addition.

As a childbirth and postpartum doula I enjoy assisting my clients with their pregnancy related questions and concerns. I give a lot of attention and information to my clients and am available for their needs during their pregnancy, delivery and postpartum period.

 

This blog written by Lisa Raynor , a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL.  She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding.

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