May 7, 2015
Eleven reasons your partner should WANT to hire a doula for your Broward County Birth!
- When you hire a childbirth and postpartum doula, your partner will feel less pressure to learn everything about pregnancy, childbirth and delivery. Most doulas are required to read several pregnancy and childbirth books for certification and usually read way more than are required. Doulas also take many hours of classes and workshops to gain knowledge about pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and postpartum care!
- With a doula in your delivery room, there is no pressure for your partner to stay in the room every minute while you are in labor . Your partner can leave for a minute or more to grab a snack, a meal or just get away if needed.
- When you hire a doula, your partner can learn some great coping techniques, massage techniques and breathing exercise from the doula. We have a lot of experience in comforting moms in labor and we can show your partner how to do it too!
- With a doula in the hospital room, your partner can take a nap if he needs it. Maybe he worked a long shift at work and is tired. That’s understandable and not frowned upon. Your doula can step in and take on the birth partner role for as long as needed.
- Your doula will support your decisions whatever they might be. Your partner can take comfort in knowing that your doula will support your decisions for your birth choices and never disagree or push her opinions on you.
- Your doula can run and get a snack or drink from the hospital cafeteria if your partner needs one. A doula is there to help BOTH of you in any way she can.
- A doula can take pictures of the two of you before, during and after delivery! Who else will have time to do that? The labor and delivery nurses and doctors in the hospital will be busy tending to other patients and that’s OK, because doulas LOVE to take pictures!
- A doula can handle all the texts and phones calls to friends and family so you can both enjoy your new baby!
- A doula can help support the new mom with breastfeeding if she chooses to do so. Doulas know a lot of breastfeeding and can help a new mom overcome her fears and assist her with her first latch. Doulas can also recommend an IBCLC (Internationally Board Certified Lactation Consultants) if she needs one.
- A doula encourages and supports BOTH of you with motivating words and compliments. A doula will tell you BOTH how great you are doing!
- A doula loves to talk about your pregnancy and answer your questions. Your partner will be happy knowing that you’re getting all the attention you deserve during your pregnancy. Doulas don’t mind talking about your fears or your concerns. Doulas don’t mind texts or phone calls from you or your partner.
I wrote this blog and read it to my husband afterwards. He agreed that he would have liked for us to have a doula with all three of our children’s births. During labor with our first son, he felt nervous, unprepared and sometimes confused with some of the medical terms used. He said that the knowledge and experience that a doula has could have helped him understand more and feel relaxed. With the birth of our second son, he was tired after being in the delivery room for so many hours, but felt guilty if he would take a walk or get a snack or even tap a power nap. A doula would have allowed him to take a much needed break because a doulas stay by a mother’s side nonstop. With the birth of our third son, he felt like a pro at everything about labor and delivery, but thinks we could have benefited from a postpartum doula. I had a harder recovery and suffered from postpartum depression and needed alot more help than he was able to give me. A postpartum doula would have been able to support my needs and my newborn’s need and even assist in household chores or other errands that he ended up having to do after working all day.
A doula never replaces a woman’s partner if he chooses to be present at the birth. While a doula can be very helpful for single women or women who must be separated from their partners at the time of birth, doulas are also valuable additions to the birth team even when a birthing woman has a loving and enthusiastic partner. Birth partners may find the physically and emotionally intense nature of the birth experience overwhelming and will appreciate the support and experience of a doula.
This blog was written by Lisa Raynor, a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL. She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding. She has been living in South Florida for over 35 years and is active in the birthing community in and around Broward County.