March 21, 2017
Read This IVF Story Before You Make An April Fool’s Pregnancy Joke!
As a little girl, all I dreamed about was being a mom. As an adult, I never thought I would struggle with infertility.
Each month when I would get my period it was a reminder that I was failing at something that I wanted so badly.
Each month was a reminder that things weren’t happening the way I planned.
Each month was a disappointment.
Each month I wasted money on pregnancy tests and never saw a positive result.
Each month my husband tried to console me as I cried myself to sleep.
Each month I pretended to be happy when my friends announced their pregnancies and delivered their babies.
Each month I wished I was in their shoes but was in denial that there was a problem.
Each April 1st, people would make April Fool’s jokes about being pregnant and they didn’t know how much it hurt me.
Each month I wandered into baby stores and envisioned the items I would need.
Each month I talked myself out of going to see a fertility specialist for IVF.
Each month I grew deeper and deeper into depression and thought my dream of being a mom would never happen. This went on for year and years.
Then…….One day I made a call, made an appointment, met with a fertility doctor, listened to his advice, got on medicine, made healthy changes in my life, believed that IVF could work for me, believed I was worth the time, the commitment and the money, I believed that I would be a mom………and now I am!
Please be sensitive this April Fool’s Day and think about the moms struggling to get pregnant or the ones who have been pregnant and miscarried. Think about the moms going through IVF who are patiently wait to hear the words “you’re pregnant”! Pregnancy is not a joke. So many of my friends have struggled with infertility and can relate to the story above. A story of courage and strength and determination to be a mom. As a doula, I have supported many moms through their pregnancy journeys after IVF, but some have been friends before and during IVF. I have been there for the emotional rollercoaster, the highs and lows, and the tears of joy and tears of sadness. IVF moms are some of the most amazing people I know and some of the strongest.