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The Pressure to get an Epidural for First Time Moms


I have been seeing more and more that first time moms are getting pressured into getting an epidural for their upcoming labor. They have friends and family, even some doctors and nurses, telling them that they will NEED it, they WON’T be able to deal with the contractions without it, or that they are crazy for NOT wanting it. I am wondering WHY everyone has such an opinion about this. I am thinking it might be because they themselves had an epidural or couldn’t manage THEIR labor without it. Maybe they are insecure about the fact that they had one? I personally don’t think getting an epidural is anything to be ashamed of. In fact, I had one with each of my labors, but you won’t hear me saying that YOU need it. You won’t hear me saying that you CAN’T manage the pain without it.  In fact you CAN manage your pain without one. You can do anything you set your mind to!

As a childbirth doula, I will support whatever decision you make. If an epidural is in your birth plan I will support and encourage you throughout your labor and delivery just the same. Having a birth plan can help remind you of the birth you desire, but it isn’t a binding contract! You do not have to stick to everything that’s written in your birth plan. If you decide you want an epidural or other pain medication during your labor you can have it. As your doula, I will support that decision. One piece of advice I give my clients and friends is that this is YOUR birth, no one else’s.  You don’t owe anyone an explanation of the choices you made. The details of your labor and delivery are YOURS!



This blog written by Lisa Raynor, a childbirth and postpartum doula in Coral Springs, FL.  She is also a mom of three boys, a wife, and loves to blog about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum care and breastfeeding.

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